Ladies, let’s get down to it. I have put together this post and video to ask the question.
We all want and know how to feel satisfied don’t we?
I would have thought so, but how many of us really can say yes, yes, yes? We all think we know what makes us feel good so let us take a look at the definition of satisfaction:
‘The fulfilment of one’s wishes, expectations, or needs, or the pleasure derived from this’
How would you know if you were satisfied? What would it look and feel like?
The funny thing is that for many of us even when we have acquired what we wanted, we still do not feel satisfied and replace that need with something else. Here is a quick list of some of the things where we seek gratification.
- Designer Goods
There is nothing wrong with most of the above (apart from the drugs of course). However, overindulgence in anyone of these can still leave you feeling void.
We spend so much time and energy focusing on chasing a multitude of pleasures, in order to attain that feeling of satisfaction. Whilst we overindulge in some of the above it is not uncommon for us to be laying awake at night worrying about our lives and wanting something more meaningful.
Grab a piece of paper and write down what is important to you. Check in with yourself, are you seeking pleasure by overindulging in any of the above areas? What direction is your search for gratification taking you?
Think about the different areas of your life and what improvements you can make. Even improving just one or two of these areas could make a big difference to how you live.
Do you need to spend time build strong relationships with others rather than things that carry a high material value but do not add real value to our lives? We often look for external stimuli to get a ‘fix’ or to scratch that itch, thinking that this will resolve our problems. Oh yes, it’s going to feel good for a moment but in the long run it only brings a feeling of temporary joy rather than long term fulfilment.
It is time for you to get a handle on how you search for pleasure
The search for these things can actually make you sick. Oftentimes, stress can be the result of trying to too hard to acquire such things.
Ask yourself, are your pursuits and acquisition of pleasurable things a smoke screen to block out pain whether emotional or physical?
I remember when I was younger, I only would do something if it gave me that feel good factor. And that was the end of that, no discussion no debate and no negotiation. My philosophy was you only live once and I was going to live it to the limit. I believed that if you are going to do something then it must feel good. However, I found that this way of life often left a trail of disappointment and sometimes hurt. But now with a change in perspective I have a more balanced approach to the seeking of pleasure.
I have learned that we are all in the pursuit of happiness. However, we have to define what that happiness is, otherwise we can end up feeling void and or burned out whilst striving for its attainment.
I am sure that if you spend some time thinking about the points I have covered in this post you will be able to identify areas for positive change. Let me know your thoughts and any light bulb moments that you may have by leaving a comment below.
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Sonia supports women to get unstuck, jumpstart their lives and get their sassy back so that they can live the life of their desires.
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A housing professional, wife, mother of 4 and grandmother, Sonia believes that sometimes the simplest mind-set and lifestyle changes have the biggest impact on living a balanced and happy life.
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