We are approaching the end of the year. Where did the time go? I hear you say.
I thought I would just help you out a little and get you in the mindset for reviewing your year. You see we all want to live a better life, right? And most of us use the New Year as a maker to set our goals.
My advice is don’t wait for the 1st January to start thinking about what you want to achieve in 2016. Start thinking right now!
Here are a few tips and questions to help you as you review.
What stopped you achieving what you set out in 2015?
Be honest with yourself. Did you have things you wanted to achieve in 2015 that have gotten nowhere? Will you be stepping into 2016 with the same list of resolutions as 2015, 2014, 2013 and earlier. Rehashing the same resolutions/goals every year is a common habit. You have to recognise when enough is enough and make a decision that if you want something bad enough you will have to do what it takes to achieve it.
Get rid of the self-doubt.
Self-doubt is a major killer of dreams. You see, we write down our desires and we feel good and inspired for that moment.Then the little voice in your head tells you “I am not good enough.” Who do I think I am?” “I am not lucky”. “It’s going to take to much hard work”. “I haven’t got time for this.” If we don’t believe that we can achieve them then ultimately we allow that voice of self-doubt to stop us from moving forward and achieving them.
Stop waiting for perfection go for progress.
You may have heard me say this before “slow progress is better than no progress.” Often times we wait for things to fall perfectly into place before moving forward. It’s almost like waiting to find the time to clean your house before your cleaner arrives. How crazy is that??
So whatever you have been putting off, waiting for the perfect time to move forward. Just do it! We can often be waiting for that perfect moment and that perfect moment may never come and because you have been waiting you remain stagnant.
Kick procrastination to the curb.
Girl, you know how everything can grab our attention more than the things we say we are going to do. I have to laugh at this one because there are some days when I have set time to sit at the computer to do some work and then I think of everything else that I need to do, like start some laundry. As you know laundry needs to be sorted into colours prior to going into the washing machine, so all of that is going to take some time. . Procrastination can come in different forms. Try and spot the ones that you have to work on. For example watching way too much TV, loosing hours a week on Social Media, or chatting endlessly on the telephone.
Here is a definition of procrastination:
‘Procrastination is the avoidance of doing a task which needs to be accomplished. It is the practice of doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, or carrying out less urgent tasks instead of more urgent ones, thus putting off impending tasks to a later time.’
Enough of the daydreaming and goal setting. Get goal hitting!
Try and change your focus from goal setting to goal hitting. Goal setting is easy. We can write down what we want to achieve and that to some extent is the easy part of the process. To be honest, continually goal setting without the action can be a creative form of procrastination. The real energy comes when you are hitting those goals you set for yourself. I believe this is were your focus should be. The goal setting is the planning, and is vital. But unless you put your energy into the hitting the goal you will remain stagnant. Look at the game of football. Yes the players know there is a goal at the end of the pitch but if they do not put the effort and energy into hitting the goal the game goes nowhere.
Know when to call for help.
There comes a time when you have to be honest with yourself and know when to get the help you need. Setting goals and achieving them is the best way to create a life that feels good to you. No matter how small the goal is, reaching it brings a sense on fulfilment. But as you may know from past experience it may not always be easy. You want to move forward but you feel stuck and when we feel stuck we feel stressed.
Seeking help is not a bad thing, it is not a sign of being defeated, on the contrary, it is a sign that you are serious about your life. Time is to short to be struggling, so seek the help you need. Help can be found in a book, a training program, an accountability buddy or a coach.
I have put together a workbook to help you. This workbook has helped a number of people to get clear on their desires and create a step-by-step plan to achieve them. If you have been with me for some time you would have received it via email some time ago so check your inbox.
If you are new to me you can get it straight away by putting your name and email address in the box on this page.
Enjoy and remember to start NOW!!!
Until next time.
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Sonia supports women to get unstuck, jumpstart their lives and get their sassy back so that they can live the life of their desires.
Passionate about supporting women to live their best lives, Sonia’s is often invited to speak and contribute on a number of radio shows, speaking platforms and articles.
A housing professional, wife, mother of 4 and grandmother, Sonia believes that sometimes the simplest mind-set and lifestyle changes have the biggest impact on living a balanced and happy life.
Sonia offers life coaching tools, wellbeing tips and inspiration on her lifestyle blog.