Have you ever heard the saying ‘let your yes be yes and your no be no?’
I know that you may be reading this and are feeling fed up of being fed up and sick and tired of being sick and tired. Always being called on to do for others whilst leaving your needs to the bottom of the pile.
Well, I thought it be really important to bring this topic here. You see as women we often find it difficult to make our yes, yes and our no, no. We have been trained and conditioned to be people pleasers and that can mean putting other people, before our own.
This has led to many of us living unfulfilled lives.
I am sure you can identify with this either in your past our you are still experiencing now. And what it means is you say yes to others at the expense of saying yes to you. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
There is nothing wrong with looking after, supporting and nurturing your family and your friends. However, there is a line between giving to everybody to the point where you have nothing left to give to yourself and as a result you become drained and depleted.
You find that women even in their 40’s and above are still giving everything to everybody and leaving themselves last. Because this is what we have been taught is the thing to do, to give is to express love and compassion to others. But when you give, give, give without checking in on ourselves to recharge your own batteries we can end up feeling:
- Taken for granted
- Lack of control
- Drained and depleted
The irony is that this type of giving can cause resentment towards the ones you love. I know I have been there myself.
I have done a quick video where I ask the question. Are you saying no to others so that you can say yes to you?
Fancy joining me later today on the Free call? Well click on this link for the details: https://brightnowcoaching.leadpages.net/yes/
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Sonia supports women to get unstuck, jumpstart their lives and get their sassy back so that they can live the life of their desires.
Passionate about supporting women to live their best lives, Sonia’s is often invited to speak and contribute on a number of radio shows, speaking platforms and articles.
A housing professional, wife, mother of 4 and grandmother, Sonia believes that sometimes the simplest mind-set and lifestyle changes have the biggest impact on living a balanced and happy life.
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